The Path to Becoming a Righteous Woman

The Path To Becoming A Righteous Woman - Abu Yusuf Khaleefah -

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*please listen to lecture to get full references and evidences these notes are merely just a summary  from points in lecture*

Notes taken by: Yasriyyah "Umm Abdur-Rahman"

These notes are a summary of the lecture, I am not in any way a student of knowledge I am amongst the common folk. I just wanted to share the many benefits I got from lecture. BaarakuAllahu feekunna

Islam

·         Preserves and protects the women

·         Honored the women

·         Preserved their rights

·         Encourage the women from the good and noble character

·         One is al Hayaa (Modesty)

 Narrate by Abu Huraira…. Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) 

There are 60 or 70 odd branches of Imaan the best of these branches is Laa ilaha illa lah and the lowest of these branches is removal of something harmful from the road and Hayaa (Shyness/Modesty) is  a branch of faith one of them.

~(Agreed Upon)

4 Categories of Shyness

1^st Hayaa ul minal llah

·         Being shy and displaying modesty in front of Allah

2^nd Hayaa ul minal Malilikah (Angels)

·         Being shy in front of the Angels

3^rd Hayaa ul minan Nas

·         Being shy in front of the people with the people

4^th Hayaa ul minan Nafs

·         Being shy of one’s self

1^st Shyness of Allah

·         Knowing that Allah sees him/her so the servant keeps away from thing that may anger Allah (i.e disobedience)

·         Modesty in front of Allah in the true way of having modesty

 True ways of Modesty

1.   He guards his head and that which entails it (i.e eyes, tongue, nose, hair, etc)

2.   Preserve his stomach from which it desires (staying away from the forbidden things)

3.   Remember life and death

Benefits in remembering death (abundantly)

·           Helps person become easy about death

·           Give awareness to life coming to an end

·           Lost(death) destroys the pleasures

Benefits in remembering Life (thinking of hereafter)

·         Will keep a person balanced in not chasing after the Dunya (this world)

Awrah (Private areas) in front of Allah

·         Preserve your awrah except from your spouse

·         Allah has more right that you are shy in front of him than in front of the people

                - in regards to being naked alone (unnecessarily)

 2nd Shyness of Angels

Certain angels are around us 24/7 and others may accompany the believers in various situations. We should be shy of what is done in front of them. The same thing that affects Bini Adam also affects the angels

Example: the command of not coming to masjid whilst eating onions and garlic

·         This bring harm for our brothers and sisters

·         Harm for the angels

·         Health benefit

·         Harm out weights the good

Kamaran and Katibeen- the noble writers (angels) as Allah described them

3^rd Shyness with the people

·         Entails good mannerisms

·         Leaving off that which will harm in front of the people by

·         Fear of Allah

·         Protecting ppl from harm

·         Doing thing to prevent justified criticism and blame from the people

·         Observe Allah’s commandments and keep away from his prohibitions

·         One is shy in front of the ppl only for Allah’s sake and pleasure

4^th Shyness with Self

·         Person fears Allah in secret and in public

Three matters (Thalatha Mulikat) that can destroy a person

1.    Miserliness (stinginess)

2.    Evil desires that are carried out

3.    Amazed with oneself

·         We must truly mean Maa Sha Allah in matters pertaining to self especially because inwardly it could seem boastful and arrogant when one is amazed with self excessively

Three Matters (Thalatha Munja’at) that bring about salvation

1.    Fear Allah in open and secret

2.    Be moderate with wealth and poverty

3.    Be just in happiness and anger

·         Observing modesty within yourself

·         Strive against your soul

Common Misunderstanding

Hadith Summarized: narrated by Abu Masood Uqbah

 Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam)  said: if you are not shy do as you please

~Muslim

Misunderstood meaning: they say I have no shame in my game so Im going to do what I want and say what I want to say. And then put this on the Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) saying the Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said mentioned hadith…

This is not correct, this hadith generally means

·         dispraise worthy or blame. It is prohibited to do as you wish

1^st meaning:

1^stly Command from Allah

·         Threat

·         No shyness go ahead and do as you wish, Allah will deal with you

·         Call to account

2^ndly Command /Information that is given from the Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) 

·         He is informing us that if a person has no shyness they will do what they want to do

·         If shyness was there it would be a protection from evils and indecencies

2^nd Meaning

Command for person to do what they intend to do.

·         Evil action will prevail with no shyness

·         Good action will prevail with shyness

Actions done today that opposes Shyness

1.  Spreading the secret affairs between husband and wife

• Allah praises the women who possess noble characteristic

~ Refer to 4:34 in Noble Quran

• Righteousness
• Devote to Allah
• Preserving in absence of spouse those things that Allah has order you to preserve (i.e his wealth and his honor)     

Refer to Muslim 1437

Abi Sa’eed Qudri narrated that the Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said:

Indeed the worst of ppl is a man who has relates with is wife and spread the secrets. 

(same for women)

Summary of Hadith

Asma bint Yazeed narrated

·            Men and women were present

·            The  Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) mentioned the man of a that speaks about matters with wife

·            Everyone was quiet

·            Asma said by Allah the women do this

·            This includes that both men and women do this

Speaking about these matters

·         The  Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) admonished them for this and said it’s like a male shaytan engaging in relation with a female shaytan in public (openly)

Some affects and benefits

·         One effect that causes disunity in the home is a women telling about her sexual interaction with husband and then next thing the sister is seeking to marry your husband because of what you fed her.

·         Reality hits now the woman is crying and mad at the world

·         Benefits come when we stay away from affairs that the Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) warn us against.

2.  Proper Hijab is not being observed

           Refer to Bukhari and Muslim (summarized in pts)

·         The  Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said there were women in hell-fire clothed but naked

·         This means due to their lack of covering they look naked

(my note): we see this amongst muslimahs and non muslimahs alike

One known and infamous trend is Leggings

           

3.  Speech

            1.cursing

            2. ungratefulness

                    - they denied the good life and goo treatment given to them

           

Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said and saw the majority of the inhabitants of the hell-fire were women.

 ~ Refer to Bukhari for full hadith

A point was made about hijab when it rains why do then the women take cover with the nicest and expensive head covers but don’t do it for any other reason

2 examples of Righteous Women in Noble Quran

Maryam

Surah 19:16

Points of Importance

1.    Fearing Allah

2.    Cover herself with hijab (barrier) in front of strange men (the noble Angel Jibreel)

3.    Shewas direct and straight to the point of knowing why he was there

4.    Noble character even excluded her from family to devote herself to Allah

The Women of Maydan

Surah 28:23-29

Points of Importance

1.    Shyness in not mixing with men

2.    Shyness in walk and speech

2 examples of shyness that are not Praiseworthy but blameworthy

1.       Shyness in learning the matters of your deen.

Statement from Ummul Mumineen:

 A'ishah (radhiallahu anha) said, “How good are the women of the Ansar! Shyness did not prevent them from understanding their religion properly.”

~Reference: Fath al-Bari, 1/228, Kitabal-'ilm, bab al-haya' fi'l-'ilm; Sahih Muslim, 4/16, Kitab al-hayd, bab ghuslal-mustahadah wa salatiha

2.       Shyness in following the commandments of Allah and keeping away from the prohibitions

Attain Modesty

1^st Know Allah

·         By names and attributes and living according to them

·         You do not feel safe against Allah’s punishment

2^nd  Knowing the Sunnah of the Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) and how he displayed his modesty

·         He was more shy than a young virgin girl in her room

3^rd Reading the Bios of the Sahabiyat starting with the mother of the believers, wives of companions, the salaf among the women

Most women will be followers of Harut and Marut (Seesurah Al Baraqah)

·         Allah sent Harut and Marut (angels) to the ppl of Babylon to teach them magic as a test and it was some amongst them who went to learn it.

·         They were told this is a test so do not disbelieve

·         Taught magic as a test to the ppl they still followed them

·         Type of magic learnt was the magic that separates a man from his wife

·         The women who indulgence in separating a man from his wife are followers of Harut and Marut

Example: A Narration from one of the salaf from the Tabi’een(summarized in pts)

Abu Muslim Al Qawlani

·         He and his wife were righteous

·         They were harmonious toward each other and they both praised Allah with magnified praise

·         They had a good situation

·         Came home one day and gave salaams as normal didn’t not get a respond

·         He asked her what was her concern , she said why dont you go to the Amir and ask him for some money.

·         He said Oh Allah who corrupted my wife he supplicated to Allah to deal with the woman who corrupted his wife.

·         It was a woman who had visited her and told her why don’t you tell your husband to go to the Amir and ask for money.

·         She was patient and content with her situation.

·         This woman had a speech of Sorcery (magic) and she was dealt with properly from the one who was oppressed (the husband who supplicated to Allah)

*Note the supplication of the oppressed dua is always answered*

This woman became blind and then she realized what she had done and went to the husband and ask him to supplicate to Allah to remove her blindness.

The man’s dua was answered again in reference to removing the woman’s blindness.

Speech like this can be described as Magic speech some sisters fall privy to other sisters who telling them all these things then the woman become “magically”dissatisfied with husband then asks for a Khula (request to have husband release her from marriage) then once the veil is (magic is lifted) she regrets her decision and realizes that this man was a righteous man.

The Prophet (Sallalaahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said whoever turns a woman against her husband is not from us.

4^th Keeping good companionship

·         Have to watch who your friends are

·         The person will be with the person who the love